Master Your Emotions: A Practical Guide to Overcome Negativity and Better Manage Your Feelings

Ulio

Rating: really liked it
Read this on a whim because it was free on Kindle Unlimited.

As someone who finds himself sometimes overwhelmed by their emotions. Mainly worriness or nervousness, I thought I might give this book a chance.

The layout of the book is great. Each chapter focuses on a different problem that is created by your emotions this may be jealousy, fear of unknown, anxiety and etc... Chapter starts out as to why emotions have something to do with this and how to combat it with some direct actions.

I haven't applied everything I learned in this book but a lot of it seems useful.

There also isn't some ground breaking technique or info in this book. It is very basic imo but it is simple and a fast read. Basic things such as distracting yourself to stop a negative emotion for a short term is a strategy. Then there is a long term strategy to let go of those negative emotions. Such as asking questions why you feel that way and what are the things that bring out those negative emotions out of you.

Anyone who has read a self help book will find many similar mantras(self affirmation, positive thinking, zen quotes etc) and many actually the author quotes from other self help books. One thing that stood out to me is how the author states how important emotions are because emotions = thoughts = action. But also states we give our emotions too much importance especially the negative ones. Also there isn't any pseudo science here of be happy 24 hour. He states we might over dramatize negative emotions but they are important to also know something is wrong.

Good read. I took a lot of notes and will try to use them in the future and see if it helps me.

I mainly struggle with procastination, shyness and getting out of my comfort zone. I will update this if any of the tips do help me.

Jolanta

Rating: really liked it
The guy (quoting other authors doesn’t make one an author) did a little research on emotions by reading other self help books and watching TED talks on Youtube and shared a few nuggets of wisdom he learned.

The book is only half written and hardly edited. The title is misleading. There’s almost no insights on how emotions work, or references to scientific literature. He throws out an idea and then literally says: “if you want to know more, search “topic X” on YouTube.” Sorry, but I paid for this book, so you better explain everything you learned from that video yourself, you lazy sod!

The ideas are nothing new or grand either - stop creating problems in your mind, sleep well, exercise and reprogram yourself to be happy. Brilliant, Sherlock! Absolutely brilliant!He constantly contradicts himself and repeats the same cliché ideas over and over again to fill the pages but never really puts an effort into more detailed discussion of any zillion things he mentions.

Anyway, I’m still glad I read this book - there are some good points in it that he copy-pasted from more insightful books from serious authors who actually have a deep level of knowledge on the subject.

I would recommend this book to people who very much like simple books without much depth.

J.P. Willson

Rating: really liked it
To be honest, this did nothing for me in the grand scheme of things. One cannot master ones emotions, control them perhaps, yet everyone has the predisposition to fly off the handle from time to time, so really this becomes redundant very quickly in my opinion...

Janani Kalpathi

Rating: really liked it
Mildly interesting one time read.

This book gives a mildly interesting perspective of treating emotions. Treat emotion as a temporary visitor in your mind where they come and go but you still remain. Hence, be mindful enough to treat it literally like a visitor and not so seriously. Just as Rudyard Kipling says in 'If' - 'if you can meet with triumph and disaster and treat those imposters just the same'. I'd say if we can treat the positive and negative emotions the same, then you've got a deal.

My fav quote from the book is 'some people die at 25 and aren't buried until 75'.

Also, the author contradicts his own POV on problems by first stating 'problems don't exist' and then saying 'everybody has problems'. While I understand the latter is accurate, it was confusing to read the back and forth perceptions by the writer. It almost feels like he is saying the same thing again and again - how emotions are formed, how to be aware, let go, deal with negative emotions etc. The author writes about a zillion things to do which I will neither remember nor action. He could have been more focused in his writing as opposed to just saying it all to fill pages of the book.

Overall, the intent was right but the execution got lost mid way. The best part about reading books is getting recommendations to read other insightful books (next up is Nick Vujicic's Life Without Limits) . The 1 line message I got from this book is 'you are constantly choosing' whatever that choice might be.

Nopadol Rompho

Rating: really liked it
Interesting book that tells you how to deal with your emotions. One of the best quote that I love from this book is 'you are not your emotion'. So you are not angry you just feel angry. Emotion comes and goes.

Adam

Rating: really liked it
A book I'll read again. Most self help is blah blah blah this book legit. This isn't a book it's a lighthouse.

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How you feel the determins of quality of your life
Most rejections are no big deal
One life doesn't play out to your personal story you get upset
Emotions always come and go but I remain
I'm feeling mildly depressed due to a lack of results
Negative issues exist only in your mind
Don't let your mind over dramatize things buy clustering unrelated issues
What you don't focus on doesn't exist
Light from screens can miss cue the brain at night
Do you give up when you encounter your first major setback?
Do you believe her for a reason or do you wander through life without any clear purpose?
Do you believe problems are bad or they are a necessary part of life?
Write down one or two emotional problems you currently have
What differentiates people who have a happy life from people who are miserable is often how they choose to interpret their lives
What would I need to believe for my story to be true?
Come see me for the best f****** deal possible
Have a couple of naps throughout the day as necessary
After 5 mins your mood elevates with excecise
A messy desk can be demotivating
Don't forget to breathe for energy
What emotional clothes are you wearing right now?
Release your emotions and declutter them
To start letting go of your emotions you must first become aware of them
Get more in touch with your body
Each thought or image crossing your mind isn't your isn't necessarily true
Observe your emotions with detachment
I'm not sad I'm experiencing a feeling of sadness
The more you distance yourself from your emotions the easier it will be for you to label them and detach yourself from them
I feel not good enough
Let go of the victim mentality
Let go of the pride that says the world needs to be changed
I struggle with procrastination and experience guilt and shame
Could I let this feeling go would I and when?
I have positive expectation
Deposit positive thoughts in your mind
People with low self-esteem disem barb their mind with disempowering thoughts
Our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect
If you can do the things you don't feel like doing you'll have everything you ever wanted
Give yourself 5 seconds you have 5 seconds to send the email talk to the person etc etc
Emotional suffering tells you something is wrong with your mind
The need to be Right stems from your desire to protect your story or your ego
In every LIE there's a kernal of Truth
The truth is stress doesn't exist outside of yourself but you probably experience stress on a regular basis and probably more often than you would like to
Sort out your worries and label them things you have control over and things you don't and things you sort of have control over some control no control right down things you can do concrete actions to take control over them to relieve the pain
Can you Let go of your need to control them and stud except them
Take 100% responsibility for your stress and worries
How on Earth can another's thought about you harm you? It is your thought about his thought that harms? Change your thought...
Change your perception of how people perceive you
Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies it just won't work
Resentment is here to tell you that you must love yourself and value your peace of mind more than anything else
Resentment is a poison you consented to drink
Non-clinical depression occurs when you're not where you want to be in life you've lost any hope to ever be and you can't accept it depression results from feeling hopeless and one or several areas of your life
I've had fear of not being able to sustain My success with all the pressure on my shoulders
Even the most successful people on Earth feel fear
What is one thing I should be doing but fear has made me procrastinate over?
Afraid they'll do a poor job people procrastinate
What does procrastination cost you? How does it affect your peace of mind your self-esteem your ability to achieve your dreams? The more you're sick and tired of procrastination the more likely you will be to actually do something about it
What are you telling yourself?
If you keep putting off tasks you'll begin to lose motivation and eventually feel stuck without even knowing why
Start becoming aware of your excuses write them down and address them one by one they control you because you let them... Commit to addressing them
If you like motivation you're probably out of touch with the essence of who you are
Touch people at an emotional level sales
If you feel overwhelmed you probably have too many open loops in your life or from procrastinating on a major task
Identify all the tests that need to be done identify one task that you've been putting off complete that task
Breaking the chain of low self-esteem

Michelle Farrell

Rating: really liked it
I started reading this because it was free on Amazon Prime and I love any good self-improvement book. I even printed out the workbook to go along with it; I was dedicated. I slogged through at least the first third of it before I finally gave up.

The advice in this book was so basic that I felt like the author was insulting my intelligence. This is not an actual quote, but it read almost like, "Are you sad? Try going outside or listening to music! Are you mad? Try to calm down and think before acting on it." Like. Is this written for lizard people trying to blend into society? Anyone who has taken even a MOMENT to think about their emotions knows what this book is saying. I found myself groaning with each new piece of advice. No idea why this has such high ratings.

pearlescent

Rating: really liked it
God, I feel like an asshole whenever I put a somewhat negative review.

That aside, this book didn't really do it for me. As with all self-help books, there were a few nuggets of wisdom that stood out to me from others within its genre, but in this case they weren't explained in a cohesive manner. I think there's a lot of value in detaching yourself from the idea of your immediate thoughts and emotions (?) being an ego inclined to defensiveness and rash action in the pursuit of self-preservation, but it was frankly poorly explored. It could have been the saving grace of this book if it became the big idea.

The writer's intentions appear to be good, but through his several anecdotes on his struggle with writing and finding his career as a self-help guru, the inefficient execution/written style uncovers its roots. I find that he really under-valued the importance of delivery in his message under the message itself.

However, it's worth acknowledging several notable merits of the work. The organization and thorough sectioning would allow for easy reference if a reader finds it helpful enough to refer back to in times of strong negative emotion, and there is a solid attempt to translate his philosophy on handling emotion to real life through provided worksheets.

Muthulakshmi Mahesh

Rating: really liked it
I picked up this book, as I was going through my hard time in dealing with humans around me.
We've never really been taught to control our emotions. However, controlling emotions is significant in turning our lives magical or miserable.

We should reprogram our brain when one criticises us and limit our own assumptions to go with reality. Sometimes our addictions can rob our happiness so we tend to pay less attention to other things by which we ruin our lives by ourselves. Hedonic adaptation occurs when one postpones one's happiness to the time till he achieves his first goal.

Doing exercise and doing our favorite things helps us lift our moods. Negative events can serve as a wake up call, they do not act as a hindrance in attaining success. We need to take them as experience and learn from them. They help us to experience and learn something about ourselves.

This manual is full of positivity, shows the association between our emotional state and the external environment. It guides us in dealing with negative emotions which can be converted to personal growth. An exercise is present at the end of every chapter. It's clear to know that the author had referred to various other sources and confined them in the book which makes it all helpful for individuals who love nonfiction.

peter hoben

Rating: really liked it
I’d recommend this if your feeling a bit flat and demotivated

I read this book as I was feeling pretty down in the dumps and I could understand why, the book is well written and not overly serious. I finished it in a few days.

The key points were the author helps you to get inside your mind areas where you just need a little push.

The paragraphs on motivation and depression were especially good as these areas affect a lot of us, the Author helps to think about what’s going on and to give you that push to realise it can get easier if you think about it differently.

I got this free on kindle unlimited but I would pay for the book and I think I’ll read over it again in a few weeks.

Blake Randall

Rating: really liked it
It’s the most practical Guide to Mastering Your Emotions.

The author, Thibaut Meurisse presents a variety of strategies to help you cope with negative emotions, and stress, and to help focus your mind on more positive emotions.

As one who has a tendency of going through my emotions of overthinking things that are WAY out of my control, letting resentment build-up, and procrastination, this book was the perfect refresher that I needed and you could benefit from it as well.

Master Your Emotions provides you with ways to deal with your negative emotions so that you can live a much happier, and more fulfilling life.

The book is packed with exercises that feature specific examples of all types of emotions that one goes through, that will have an immediate, and positive impact on your emotional state.

It really is a great starter for someone that is beginning their journey into reading self-help books as this really covers all of the basics.

This book can help you understand what emotions are, what impacts your emotions, how to change your emotions, and how to use your emotions to grow.

Just like any self-help book, if you take action from what you read, you will see positive change in your life.

Also what helps is that there is a step-by-step workbook to go along with the book that the author pushes you to do as you read. It’s great!

I thoroughly enjoy this book, from cover to cover. A lot of books in the self-help area talk about emotions and how you are affected by them, but never, truly go into as much detail as Master Your Emotions did. I love how this book is clear and straight to the point– there isn’t random fluff.

If you are someone who struggles to deal with your negative emotions or want to learn how your emotions function and how you can actually use them as a tool for your own growth, this book is just for you.

Antara Vinayachandran

Rating: really liked it
What do they say about some books entering your life when you need them most?

Picked it up at an airport. Dialogued with myself over “Do I need help with my emotions? Am I not properly sorted?” Answers we’re yes and no :-)

Accessible, practical, kind, unionising. Loved everything about the book, the material was largely known, but as Meurisse noted several times, it doesn’t mean we couldn’t use a pause and rethink.

“You are not your emotion.”
“You are the most important person in your life.” So is everybody is in their own lives. This was a standout moment for me. Gently explained, with compassion.

Catrinel Bianca

Rating: really liked it
Very practical with exercises and science backed recommendations I will go back to this on and on

Jevgenij

Rating: really liked it
It's not a completely bad book, but the few ideas that are useful are kind of obvious and more importantly are lost among vast amounts of irrelevant information. The author tries to cover as many topics as possible, from Depression to Procrastination, which does not do this book any good.

Jonat

Rating: really liked it
It always stings a little to get called out in a book, but what else could I expect from a book that wants to help me? To re-assure me in my faulty behavioral pattern ?

Yes I know I’m not the only one who has this tendency not to easily accept compliment. We always tend to return the compliment , or downplay or achievement. This habit might seem casual , it seeps into our mind and integrates within jt.

Exhibiting self hate, and lack of confidence do not equate as being humble, it’s not a cute or positive trait to have.

if you get accustomed to it, it can exaggerate for the worse the way your brain reacts when you’re facing an negative occurrence, leading you to thoughts of lack of self love, lack of you being important on earth, and consequently lack of will to go on.

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“The nature of your mind is to prevent you to do things that scares or tire you”

You have 5 seconds to change your life for the better before your mind talk you out of it
I’ve loved them for reminding me this advice. I can’t wait to practice jt more often

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The complex psychology of negative emotions are laid out to us in simplistic manner, to the point that even a 12 year old would understand these emotions. This is good for a self-development book. The research and insights in themselves didn’t seem reduce to me at almost no point, I didn’t feel like they were omitting to look at one angle *** by the end of the book**
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Another aspect I’ve liked is how to remove progressively self-consciousness from our life:


To remove self conscious

1- people don’t care about me

: ask yourself how often I think about my colleague for example
Or

Think how much you think about a rude waitress after leaving a restaurant

2- stop being overly attached to my self image

Because People will interpret your words based on their values😔
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Why a 3 star ?



Imagine Someone hyper self-conscious and negative, overwhelmed with all this “knowledge”, the fast-paced way the book is narrated doesn’t allow me to integrate all of them properly. And I think it’s not because I need to take breaks.

I don’t think this book was eye-opening or that it even intended to be, but I do think it contained a massive amount of great advice, and the best way to make them memorable for me is to present them with such sincerity and individuality that will make them memorable for me whenever I get in low spirits. To give time to properly express each of them and for the reader to actually integrate each of them before going onto the next one

Expecting the reader to come back on your book is a bit too utopic… at least me personally, I woulda prefered a lot of these points to be more memorably expressed. Which would make the book 100x longer … so I think the concept of this book jn itself, to tackle all of these emotions and for the reader, and especially one that tend to be heavily negative ,that is, the drastic opposite of these advices, for such reader to integrate all of them, makes this concept utopic in itself (at least for such a short length)


-Master your Emotions by Thibaut Meurisse: 7/10