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Rating: really liked it
It isn’t often that a book manages to tiptoe quietly into my life and steal a piece of my heart as effortlessly as this enthralling beauty. Thought-provoking, insightful and rife with stunning passages,
A Place for Us is much
more than just a novel to spend a few days with—it's one to appreciate, grow from and reflect back on.
Within the first few pages it’s clear, Fatima Farheen Mirza’s writing is something special—there's a distinct beauty to her storytelling. From the intriguing opening, to the family dynamics and the myriad of emotions at play, it’s nothing short of impressive. Mirza writes with an honesty and deep understanding of the inner workings of relationships and the turmoil that can plague those connections.
More than just words on a page, this is a living, breathing, body of work that allows the reader to feel each and every possibility, loving connection, heartbreak and misunderstanding.The story opens with Amar, returning to his family after a three-year estrangement, to partake in his eldest sister, Hadia’s wedding. Amar is the youngest, and only son, in an Indian-American Muslim family of five and he’s always sort of struggled to find his place. Through a series of flashbacks that aren’t quite linear, the author weaves a tale that allows the reader to be an active participant in the lives of the three siblings and their parents—piecing together the timeline like a puzzle, until the full picture of
why starts to take shape.
In trying to make sense of Amar’s distance, the story explores the inner workings of the family and their struggles with tradition, faith and outside influences. We have the father, Rafiq, who's set in his ways and often portrayed as the enforcer. Then there’s Layla, mama bear, who wavers a time or two in upholding her beliefs in the face of children wanting to branch out and try things their own way. At times, the number of rules—especially those imposed on women—are a bit stifling, but there’s an undeniable beauty to some of the customs and rich culture Rafiq and Layla try so hard to instill in their children, things they were once taught by their own parents.
Among other things, what struck me hard was the arranged marriage of Rafiq and Layla. On one hand, I admired her strength—putting her faith in a complete stranger and starting over in a new world—but on the other, my heart broke at the thought of
"love born from gratitude”. I'm not naive to the fact that this happens everyday, in many cultures around the world, it’s just hard for the lover of love in me to remove the passion from the equation and view marriage as simply an arrangement.
The final piece of the story brings
everything full circle and in doing so, it just might make you look at life a bit differently. The thoughts and feelings are so raw, so gut-wrenching; I dare you not to cry. Not to be affected. Not to be
moved. Seeing the world through
this person’s eyes
broke me—completely and utterly. There are no words to adequately capture the power of this ending, so I'll just settle with: I wholeheartedly
loved it.
Not only is this an unforgettable journey, but there’s an important and timely message behind the words—don’t ever assume you know what someone else is thinking or feeling. A person’s behavior, outward appearance or words, hurtful or not, are by no means a true indication of what they’re
actually feeling or experiencing inside. Being vulnerable should never be viewed as a weakness.
*Thank you to SJP for Hogarth for providing me with an advanced copy for review. I am beyond excited to see what’s next from this imprint.**
I am one lucky, lucky girl to have met such great friends. Thank you to all of my lovely Traveling Sisters for another lively group read and discussion. Being able to share my thoughts and seeing things through all of your eyes, made this treasured read even more special. Just wow. Until next time, ladies. 🧡
Rating: really liked it
July 2, 2018: I am so excited about this: I did an interview with the lovely Fatima on my blog! We talked about
A Place for Us, working with Sarah Jessica Parker, and favourite books!
She could hold in her heart a belief in Islam as well as the unwavering belief that every human had the right to choose who they loved, and how, and that belief was in exact accordance with her faith: that it is the individual's right to choose, and the individual's duty to empathize with one another.
Do you love those slow-burning, quiet family dramas that take you so fully into the lives of the characters? The kind that show complex human beings trying, often failing, and trying again to do their best? It's not an action-packed fantasy or a spine-tingling thriller, but get me in the right mood and I adore these kinds of books. Celeste Ng is one of my personal favourites.
And A Place for Us is a perfect example of one of these books. It moves from the present to the past and back again to tell a carefully-crafted tale of an Indian-American Muslim family and all the conflicts and love that exist between its members. It spans several decades and explores themes of culture, faith and identity.
"Somewhere (A Place For Us)" is a song that musical lovers will know well. It comes from
West Side Story, which sees two lovers torn apart by cultural and familial differences, in the vein of Romeo and Juliet. This book tells a similar story, yet the divisions exist within one single family instead of between two.
Will they ever get to a place beyond the burden of their differences?The book opens with a wedding. The bride is Hadia - a young woman who we soon learn has broken tradition by choosing her own husband and embracing more modern interpretations of Islam. We also learn that she has invited her brother, Amar, to the wedding and this will be the first time the family has been reunited since Amar ran away years before.
Then we move back in time and a picture slowly starts to build of this family. Mirza shows the intricacies in relationships, whether it be between husband and wife, brother and sister, or mother and daughter. As this family is drawn in detail, we are also taken through experiences relating to 9/11, forbidden love, and the loss of a close friend whose death affects them all.
Ultimately, A Place for Us is about what it means to be both American and Muslim; it is about the clash of religious and cultural tradition with modern ideas and the right to choose. Hadia faces decisions about wearing the hijab and arranged marriage - can she please her parents and be her own person at the same time? Is it possible to unite the old with the new?
My only (small) complaint is that I think another round of editing could have shaved off some of the parts that rehashed the same ideas over again. Depth is excellent; waffling is not. But anyway, it is a minor issue and I really enjoyed the book.
This is the first book from Sarah Jessica Parker's new imprint SJP for Hogarth and I have to say I am intrigued to see what else they publish.
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Rating: really liked it
It is with tremendous excitement that I’m sharing Fatima Farheen Mirza’s novel, A Place for Us, the first book on the SJP for Hogarth list. When we first conceived of this imprint, and imagined the kinds of books we wanted to publish, I went back to my own bookshelves—to books I loved, books that expanded my horizons, and opened me up to other worlds. In A Place for Us, I found all this and more: an exquisitely tender-hearted story of a Muslim Indian American family caught between cultures, and a deeply moving story of identity and belonging.
Rating: really liked it
Are you kidding me?Unlike the rest of the world, including sweet Sarah Jessica Parker, I did not drool over this one, unless you count the drool that appeared when I dozed off in absolute boredom. I want my hours back! Yeah yeah yeah, I know. I should have ditched it. I guess I was just committed to torturing myself.
I was so looking forward to this one, rave reviews everywhere, oh I’m sure I’ll love it. The story sounded interesting: an Indian Muslim family living in America. My balloon was full of good air but when I started reading, the great deflate began.
I’m going right to my lists. I want to be nice and say there was a small Joy Jar, but honestly, it’s a stretch for me to appreciate much about this snooze. But I’ll try.
Joy Jar-Well written.
-Occasionally profound.
-Some psychological insight and introspection. The reasons we do the things we do, the thoughts behind our actions.
-Nuanced relationships.
-Zeroes in on the little gestures and private things we do, some unconsciously. This was cool.
-Big secrets, extensive guilt. This was interesting.
-Ended my painful procrastination streak: I FINALLY found the time to fill my Amazon cart with must-haves (like food-safe mineral oil for my new cutting board). I looked for any excuse to get away from the book.
(I know, it’s cheating to put that snarky last item on the list, but I can’t help it.)
Complaint Board-I want noise! The whole damn thing seemed coated in Valium: the tone, the plot, the characters. A three-in-one snooze-fest! The language was so flat I was jonesin’ for some jazz. It was a mumbly monotone, I was a squeaky scream—what a show. I did get used to the quiet language, but it took me about half the book. By that time I had found a bunch of other reasons to hate it. Damn, I should beware whenever reviews say the book is quiet. Nine times out of ten, the quiet will make me climb the walls.
-Hand me the scissors. Is there an editor in the house? A big crime, since it led to prolonged torture, was that this book was WAY too long, like a hundred pages too long. Oh god, did I look at the bottom of the page! Have I really only read 7 percent of this book? Are you kidding me? Could my Kindle page-counter be malfunctioning??
-I’ve heard it all before (which sounds like a line in a croon-y country song). The characters are stereotypes: We have two good daughters, a black-sheep son, a kind mother, a nice dad with a slight temper. Everyone angsty. The plot was trite: Strict parents want their kids to follow traditions and the kids don’t want to; both parents and kids play the hide-important-things game; kids overachieve, underachieve, have forbidden crushes; blah blah blah. (I know, I know, if the story had been infused with juice, I probably wouldn’t be saying it was trite—it’s all in the telling.)
-No touchy-feely for me. I didn’t connect with the characters, partly because they were a bore and partly because they were too passive. It’s that Valium coating I was talking about. Of course, I always like the black sheep, but in this book he was MIA a lot. He was the focus, yes, but we didn’t get to see him or his point of view much.
-One daughter is one big blur. Totally in the background. Huh? Why didn’t she get developed? Just seems weird to have a family saga where one kid doesn’t have shape or voice.
-Okay, now talk to each other. Even in real life I like talkers, so it’s no surprise that a family of Quiet Ones would drive me nuts. I craved dialogue, interaction. The story is more about what doesn’t get said, and that’s all cool and nuanced. Still, I wanted more in-your-face drama.
-I only see the smoothie. I wanted to see the ingredients hopping around in the blender; I wanted to see the conflict of cultures. Instead, the book is focused on the family and its traditions, not about the problems of assimilating into American culture and not about friendships with people outside their culture. For the most part, it seems like the kids have blended in pretty well. There is some reaction to 9/11, but not enough.
-Today is just a tease. All you want to talk about is yesterday! The book starts with a wedding, but we don’t get back to the wedding until more than half the book is over. At the 59% mark, to be exact. (Of course I know this, since I was constantly looking at the Percent Read info at the bottom of the page, lol.) I was reading about the past. And reading about the past. And reading about the past….okay, can’t we please please please go back to the present? Can we please go back to today? Can we see what happens at the wedding? Don’t leave me hanging for half the book! The past isn’t presented sequentially—it jumps around--and that didn’t bother me a bit. But I would have liked it if the present had come back into focus now and then, between the blasts of the past. I was impatient to find out what was happening in the here and now. I get that the author wanted to flesh out the characters so that when we returned to the present, the actions would be loaded, but my annoyance with the structure of the story was so stubborn, I couldn’t appreciate the author’s plan.
-Religion collision. At first, there was a smattering of religion. I could handle that. I figured it was just there to convince us of how important religion was to the parents, which was reasonable. However, the entire last part of the book felt like a sermon. And as the end was approaching (oh baby let me be done with this book!), the pages became more and more full of religion. And here I was, hoping that we’d return to some drama. But oh no.
-Sorry, I don’t speak Urdu. Throughout the book, there are phrases in Urdu. This is a pet peeve of mine: I hate it when books include phrases in another language. I’m assuming the writer thinks it adds authenticity, but to me it just puts big blanks into the sentences. I don’t understand the words and phrases and I will never remember them, so what’s the point?
-Nit-picky editor at your service. Very occasionally, there was a point of view problem. And yes, occasionally the writer committed the sin of using “try and” instead of “try to.”
-Seriously? This is the ending? I can’t say what I wanted and expected to happen because I don’t want to give spoilers, but I can say that it was drama I was craving. Instead, the ending was mostly talk of religion and regrets.
I read a million 5-star reviews, many from friends, so I expected to love this book. Plus, I got sucked into the hype that Sarah Jessica Parker generated. (She has just launched a book publishing imprint and chose this as her first book.) I saw her with the author on a talk show. Parker was effusive. Man, what a salesperson! She convinced me that this book was the bending end—I was salivating to get my hands on it. But wait. Parker has always been an actress, not a book publisher. And why would I assume that she would like a book I would like? Geez.
The style of writing made me strangely uncomfortable, like it didn’t match me. It grated on my nerves instead of being soothing or wonderful. I never wanted to pick the book up.
But just about everyone in the universe loved this book, so don’t listen to me. I'm an alien.
Thanks to NetGalley for the advance copy.
Rating: really liked it
*All the stars, and the beautiful moon that follows each of us, always*
Symbolic, realistic-storytelling at its finest! A colorful
masterpiece and truly a story to savor, A PLACE FOR US uses a soothing voice to deliver a powerful message that will hug the hearts and hold the hands of its readers!
This author lets us know quite distinctly that we are not just readers; we are powerful beings capable of changing the world by altering the way we think. By making an effort to view life through the eyes of others, to consider their struggles and downfalls, and to recognize that we are ultimately one and the same, no matter our gender, race, religious beliefs, or social stature.
We all roam this life as “equals”. Every single moment in this story is made to materialize before your eyes through writing so profound and poetic it will cause you to pause in tiny moments of silence just to fully absorb the enormous weight of a
single delicate sentence.
We not only
witness the struggles of this beautiful Indian-American Muslim family, but we are invited to step inside their minds, embody their pain, cry through their failures, and rejoice within their triumphs. I found myself in tears more times than I can count, from being so utterly
moved, and so humbly inspired.
Being a character-driven story at heart, I feel compelled to introduce you to this family, because there is nothing better than characters so well-constructed they end up feeling like friends.
Like family. Amar is the youngest child and son of
Layla and
Rafiq, and brother to sisters
Hadia and
Huda. This is the main cast of characters guaranteed to find their way into your heart. I was mere minutes inside this story, yet already fully invested in each of their lives.
The story opens at a wedding in present time, where Amar has returned to his family after years of estrangement. Secrets from the past slowly begin to reveal themselves through a timeline that glides seamlessly in and out of past and present settings.
The character development is
tremendous. No one is immune to failure nor safe from heartache. This is NOT a neatly-depicted drama with over-the-top lessons and troubles that are magically repaired by the end.
It is
strikingly life-like, and delivers one of the most genuine portrayals of an intimate and complex family dynamic I’ve come across in a long,
long time.
You can feel the painful trials of each and every one of these characters—and perhaps you can even relate...
To Amar…who feels trapped inside the demands of his Muslim faith and his internal doubt. Born in America, but feeling every bit an outsider, Amar lives in constant fear of betraying his family and their customs. He fights between what he wants, and what he “should” want, never feeling as though any of it is ever good enough.
Or you may find common ground with Hadia…and her perpetual need to please her father, as though her entire self-worth lies solely upon his approval. Often ordered by her mother to “
bite her tongue and abandon her protest”, silencing what should otherwise be viewed as admirable determination. And then there’s the colossal pressure placed upon her as eldest child and greatest influencer of her siblings.
Or maybe their parents…who refuse to grant their children the option to live freely within their country, adamant that they adhere to their rigid yet beautiful customs, without granting even an inch of wiggle-room ... but there are times they harbor guilt and question their choices, finding it difficult to create a balance.
As the title suggests, this story exemplifies the idea of finding one’s
place in life: literally, figuratively, emotionally, culturally, and on all levels—including a place within one’s family, and even inside one’s “self”.
I appreciated that this story’s timeline intersected with 9/11 not in a drawn out manner, but just enough to shed light on the equally unjust side of the coin: I personally remember the shock of that day--
September 11th--waking up the next morning afraid of being attacked. What I failed to consider were the innocent ones waking up that same morning afraid of being
Muslim.
How it must feel for a good person—a peace-loving person—to be judged and condemned for the hateful act of another.
Various accounts of unfairness and judgment, family strife, true love lost, all saturate these pages—but there is also
so much
more.
Those precious little moments in life, so seemingly simple and ordinary that creep in quietly and leave almost entirely unnoticed.
You know the ones: children watching fireworks for the first time with their parents. A walk through a garden, a drive for ice cream. Laughing at the kitchen table while gathering for a meal. The bewitching charm of young love...
These delicate moments are ones we remember the longest and treasure the hardest, and this story is
overflowing with the recognition of those “little” things. It highlights their impact and embraces their worth, showing us that it is ultimately the simple things in life that end up defining us. The simple moments that connect us all.
A PLACE FOR US emphasizes the importance of family, relationships, forgiveness, and what it means to love someone wholly and without condition.
This is a
powerful piece I won’t soon forget, that touches the heart, provokes deep thought, instills awareness, and inspires hope. Each word is carefully chosen and thoughtfully strung together in such an eloquent arrangement that this story doesn’t speak, but
sings.
I love this story with
all of me, and I hope you will, too.
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:::::I read this with my lovely Traveling Sisters, whose thoughtful analysis and emotional commentary made this experience even more enjoyable! Thanks so much, ladies ❤️:::::
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Huge thanks to Goodreads, Sarah Jessica Parker's new imprint SJP for Hogarth, Fatima Farheen Mirza, and Penguin Random House for kindly providing and physical advanced reader's copy in exchange for an honest review!*
Rating: really liked it
I may bump this up to 5 stars (but I like to sit with it a while first). This is one of the best, most emotionally resonant books I've read in a while. Complex, wistful, melancholy.
Rating: really liked it
Five Beautiful, Heart-Wrenching, Emotional, Evocative Stars.
Extremely rare are the novels that touch the soul, permanently marking the heart, creating a burning in the lungs, making it impossible to draw in enough air. “A Place for Us” by Fatima Farheen Mirza is that kind of novel.
Every word read, causing an emotional chill and creating a sensation that coursed through me, making my heart all a flutter. “A Place For Us” is a novel about a family of five: Rafiq, Layla, Hadia, Huda and Amar, all of whom struggle to be true to themselves, while trying to remain faithful to each other, their religion and their traditions as Muslim Americans. Rafiq, runs a tight ship, strictly adhering to the militant upbringing, he himself grew up with. Layla, lives for both her family and her religion, they go hand in hand and she believes in the power of her faith to help guide her through. Her children are her life, though unconsciously she gravitates to one, more than the others. Hadia, the eldest daughter, is the best and the brightest, the one who needs recognition, personally and professionally above all else. She has a need to live by a certain code, regardless of who it impacts. Huda is the quiet one, the most confident, the most self-assured. The one everyone goes to when they need to be consoled. Amar, is the youngest child, the one who struggles the most: within his family unit, with school and with his beliefs. He has always been the outsider. The one thing he wants most in this life is forbidden.
At the outset of “A Place for Us,” the family comes together to celebrate Hadia’s wedding. Amar returns for the celebration from parts unknown, having been estranged from the family for many years. Everyone walks on eggshells. afraid of each other and most of all, afraid of facing the truth.
Emotions are palpable, from the very first moment, the tightness in the chest, the sinking, nervous feeling in the stomach. I am there, scared straight, watching, waiting, all eyes on Amar.
Fatima Farheen Mizra created characters who I felt a complete and utter kinship with, almost a “oneness” with when reading this. I am Hadia, when she is in competition with Amar and when confronts her Baba (Rafiq) about him; I am Amar, when he dotes on his mother, when he plays with his friend Ali, when he looks longingly at Amira and when he hangs his head in shame. I am also Huda, when she comforts those around her. Whose character resonates most with me you might wonder..gnawing away every fiber of my being? Amar. Always Amar. Thinking of his unrelenting heartache, his unwavering need for acceptance, love and understanding, my chest is tight and my eyes fill with tears.
When reading this novel, my head swirled with a myriad of thoughts. How do you define “A Place for Us?” Is it culture, family, religion or tradition? It it a “place” for you or a “place” for me? In my opinion, the answer isn’t that simple. It is the “place” where each character feels the most comfortable being the person they are, the “place” they feel the safest and most at ease and for each it is different.
No one knows how they might impact someone else and yet, in “A Place for Us” each and every character’s life is impacted by another’s actions and decisions. Ways in which you would never imagine. In my mind, this was the take-away - to be accountable for your actions and think about how your choices affect those around you as all actions have consequences, even the trivial ones.
“A Place for Us” is novel I lived and breathed. It is full of life lessons and a gazillion heartfelt, desperate, tear-jerking moments. To say that I was invested in and loved Amar, Huda, Hadia and Baba and this book is an understatement. The writing is so fluid, like a fountain, the water rising up, up, up ever so slowly, and splashing over quickly. It calming, exquisite, intricate, muted. In other words, sheer perfection. It has a “place” in my heart and soul and the characters will continue to give me chills for a long time to come.
This was a Traveling Sister Read. Our discussions for this book were by far, the most brilliant, emotional and gut-wrenching of any group read to-date. Throughout the course of the novel, each of us felt utterly bereft. None of us have recovered. We were all astounded by Fatima Farheen Mizra’s ability to capture a family’s struggle so realistically. It seems impossible to imagine that this is her debut. For the Full Traveling Sister Group Review, please see Brenda and Norma’s blog: https://twosisterslostinacoulee.com/
Thank you so very much to Goodreads, Sarah Jessica Parker’s new imprint: SJP for Hogarth, Penguin Random House and the incredible Fatima Fahreen Mizra for a complimentary copy of this novel in exchange for an honest review. My love for this book knows no bounds.
Published on Goodreads, Amazon, Twitter and Instagram on 6.10.18.
Rating: really liked it
Fantastic Kindle deals going on....,
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Damn! Another book to not miss because it’s FULLY ENJOYABLE!!!
Absolutely wonderful!!!
If you see reviews deeply speaking to your heart -or feel personally important to you in one way or another such as Diane S’s review did for me...and more and more high rating reviews rolling in....Karen, Cheri, Jill, Patti, Rhonda, Alaina, Anne, Amena, DeAnn, Linda, Mimi, Virginia, Amin, KatieB, Jill Dobbie,
Becky, Barbara, Kimberly, Tamkeen, Nancy, Betty, Kathy, Jamckean, Marcy,Janet, Karen Hagerman, Patti...on and on and on...
....and the book is not even released in stores until June, 12th, 2018.....it’s because this book it’s THAT GOOD.... fulfilling everything - and more- that we want from a fiction book.
“A Place For Us” would make a great book club discussion pick. Especially where I live in Silicon Valley, in the Santa Clara County. We have the 2nd highest Muslim population in the region.
The narrative is excellent....personal & intimate. We get to know the characters well and are drawn into their inner most emotional lives — ( really personal storytelling), allowing for us - the reader to better understand them as individuals- and as a family - with all their many trials and tribulations. This epic story explores the hardships of embracing change and still honoring heritage, ( balancing Muslim/American identities), cultural isolationism, social economic factors, immigration issues...and Islamophobia. At the same time -we get a clear look at the immediate family members struggles. The author does this by weaving together three non-linear points of view — and it flows effortlessly. I’m usually picky about points of view - and timeline changes - but with the smooth storytelling—the author demonstrated a clear style of her own. And quite brilliantly.
My husband and I are close friends with two Muslim/America women who are lawyers and represent MuslimAmerican clients- social rights, etc. They told us about a Bay Area survey that was taken more than decade after 9/11– taken by Muslims of all ethnicities and backgrounds. What they learned was many are still dealing with anxiety and fears. 40% experienced personal discrimination. 23% have been victims of hate crime. So this book is very relevant even today.
I didn’t think it was an accident that author Fatima Farheen Mirza lives in California and places much of this story in California. I felt like she knew her characters ‘first hand’....as they were so ‘real’.
Amar is the only son of Rafiq and Layla. Also the youngest sibling. He’s was psychologically complex - intriguing - and conflicted. He not only hated his Quran teachers as a 10 year old, got in fights —at times I couldn’t blame him when a kid said his Baba looked like a f#@king terrorist—but as he grew older — his relationship with his father became increasingly toxic. We have hints of this strained father/son relationship at the start of the novel when Amar returns home for his sisters, Hadia’s wedding, having not seen his family in 3 years.
The ending was extremely moving— I had tears.
An amazing story ....from the language Urdu- the foods- clothing- prayers- family home life - the secrets - betrayals- hopes - dreams - Love....etc.
This novel is also conscience-ridden...a fast page turner that’s vital of our times. AND JUST DARN GOOD!!!
Thank You, Emily for sending me this gorgeous physical book! The cover is stunning.
Rating: really liked it
5 ***** Glowing Stars! Wow! This book was an absolutely phenomenal read and was quickly placed into my Goodreads Favourite Reads shelf for 2018!
This book was absolutely everything to me! My thoughts and emotions did not change from the very first sentence of this book and held dear right to the very last sentence. If anything it just reminded me of what I seek and why I love to read! A PLACE FOR US moved me more than any other novel has ever moved me before.
I have never been so excited to have received a book in the mail like I was with this one. Upon opening the package and actually having this book in my hands (giving it a smell & a hug ~ I think all of us Traveling Sisters can relate to that!) the first thing I noticed was that beautiful cover. This story is just as gorgeous and beautiful as that cover!
A PLACE FOR US by FATIMA FARHEEN MIRZA was an absolutely fantastic, powerful, thought-provoking, moving, and heartfelt novel that has affected me in ways that no other novel has ever done before. I was immediately drawn into this story and savoured every single sentence! I absolutely love the title of this book and found it was extremely fitting to this story. No matter who we are or where we are from there is A Place for Us!
FATIMA FARHEEN MIRZA delivers a steady-paced, fascinating and beautifully written story here with interesting, compelling, realistic and believable characters that I absolutely fell in love with. The story is told in multiple perspectives which alternates between the voices of Layla, Hadia, and Amar, with a surprise narrative near the end which I absolutely loved. We see the same events unfold through the different perspectives and what the significance of each event meant to them and how it ultimately shapes each character. We really get a good look and understanding into each of these events. Even though there is a lot of memories within each chapter that flip around in place and time I didn’t find it at all confusing and really enjoyed the way that this story was told.
In the end I thought this was such an important, touching and powerful story and I am so happy that I had the pleasure of reading it! This book has the power to change the way we think and feel and has reminded me of all the reasons of why I love to read! 💕 This is by far one of the best books that I have ever read!! Would highly recommend!
I read this book along with my fellow Traveling Sisters! Thank you so much ladies for another awesome reading experience!! ❤️
Thank you so much to Goodreads, Sarah Jessica Parker's new imprint SJP for Hogarth, Fatima Farheen Mirza, and Penguin Random House for the opportunity to read an advanced physical copy of this book in exchange for a review!
Review written and posted on our themed book blog Two Sisters Lost In A Coulee Reading.
https://twosisterslostinacoulee.com
Coulee: a term applied rather loosely to different landforms, all of which refer to a kind of valley.
Rating: really liked it
Every once in a while I read a debut novel that is so perfect because it’s everything I want - beautifully written with characters that have you caring about them from the beginning and a story that will not easily be forgotten. This is one of them. You might read reviews of this book both on Goodreads and in the press and see words like stunning, beautiful, powerful and I wish I could be more original and find some different words but I can only say that this book is all of those things. This is a story of an Indian Muslim family living in California, and of course, it is in so many ways about cultural traditions, religious beliefs, but at its core it is a story of a family, how much they love each other, how they make mistakes and hurt each other, how deeply they feel sorrow and regret for things they do and say, sometimes too late. They are not unlike many of us, whether we are Indian Muslim or not.
We know at the beginning that Amar, the youngest child in the family, has been gone for several years and that there is tension between him and his father, Rafiq. As he returns for his sister Hadia’s wedding, his mother Layla and sister Huda as well as Hadia are anxious about how Amar’s return will be. We move back and forth seamlessly through multiple points of view - their thoughts of the present, memories of the past, the good ones like going to see fireworks and then those not so happy, at various times in their lives as little children and teenagers, the emotions, the fear of what it was like for them after 9/11, taking us back and forth finally moving towards where they are today. This is the intimate way we get to know these characters so deeply. The narrative that perhaps struck me the most, the deepest was that of Rafiq, the father who we come to know in the last part of the book. I found some circumstances so heartbreaking and some so uplifting and I cried at both. It’s hard to say anything more than hasn’t been said in the numerous reviews, so I’ll leave it a thanks to my good friend Diane S. whose review made me know I had to read this book.
I received an advanced copy of this book from SJP for Hogarth/Crown through NetGalley.
Rating: really liked it
Wow!! I am just blown away by the fact that this is a first novel, the story and theme so universal. A Muslim Indian family in America, trying to maintain it's own beliefs and culture, while facing modernity. This family, mother, father, two daughters , Hadia and Huda, and the youngest, a son Amar who never really feels he belongs. We come to know this family inside and out,the book starts with the marriage of Hadia,and then goes back and forth, to various beginnings and endings. While their beliefs may not be mine, many of the problems between parents and siblings are indeed universal.
As they struggle to find their place in the larger world, the children also struggle to find their place in the family. Living up to parental expectations, or in Amar's case the struggle to find his place anywhere at all. Trying to carvea path between cultural and religious beliefs and the lessening of this expectation to fit with the place they now find themselves. The story of this family in all its totality is both moving and insightful. The barriers to acceptance by children and parents after 911, when all Muslims were viewed with suspicion and in many cases outright hate. By showing us the commonalities in their family and our own, this young author has shown us that ww may in fact may not be so different.
The last part of the book focuses on the father's point of view,alone. How he thought, what went wrong and what he wished he had done differently. It is full of anguish and remorse, and we clearly see for the first time what this Muslim, husband, father has gone through, from his own childhood to the way he tried to instill family values and religious beliefs in his children. It does end on a note of positivity, sadness yes, but hopefully as well. This is an outstanding piece of fiction, in my opinion, I quite frankly fell hard for this family, with all it's flaws and things mistakenly done out of love. I wasn't ready to leave them at books end, and I believe if you read, or at least I hope, that you will see some of the same values, if not the religious beliefs, that we try to instill in our own families.
This is also the first book published under the Sarah Jessica Parker imprint of Random House, and it is a wonderful beginning.
ARC from bookbrowse and Random House.
Rating: really liked it
5 stars to A Place for Us, an emotionally-evocative and profound story of family and belonging! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
I felt such an intense connection to this book, I needed time to process.
A Place for Us is the story of an Indian-American Muslim family living in California. At the opening, the family has come together to celebrate the eldest daughter, Hadia’s, wedding. Amar, the estranged youngest brother, attends the wedding, after being away for years.
What unfolds is a gentle layering of time, past and present over decades, told in the voices of the family; all culminating in an honest portrait of this complex and loving family, with each member searching for belonging, or “place.”
A Place for Us was a book to read slowly and savor. One in which to reflect on my own life, on my family growing up, on my parents, and most especially, how small decisions made by family members can leave indelible marks. I felt profound connections to the genuine characters portrayed in this book due to the authenticity in the writing. Culture-aside, the issues at play within this family were universal; however, the culture embedded here was enlightening and thought-stirring.
Fatima Farheen Mirza has the ability to convey emotions in the most sincere and open ways, and she captures the vulnerabilities in people with honesty and grace. As with all books, each person will take away messages that are personal based on her/his own path towards identity and belonging, especially within one’s own family. A Place for Us is easily one of the best books I have ever read and gets my highest recommendation.
Thank you to Fatima Farheen Mirza for writing this treasure, Sarah Jessica Parker for selecting this book, Crown/SJP for Hogarth and Goodreads for sending us the physical copies for our group read, and to Netgalley.
My reviews can also be found on my blog: www.jennifertarheelreader.com
Rating: really liked it
I used the wrong words. I acted the wrong ways. I will wait, until you are ready. I will always wait for you...What a wonderful, still, thoughtful and at the same time emotional read this was.... Absolutely at loss for words actually. What a great read. I have to say, halfway through I did think the story was a bit long in the sense that an edit could have been necessary, but especially the last part, where the father contemplates and looks back at his life and his family, the conflicts and the love, that really hit me in the heart. I could not keep my tears from coming and coming in those last 40 pages or so. Wonderful read, totally deserves a full 5 stars, highlight of my 2018 reading year. So far, back to work, as usuala, more to follow. Highly recommended!
Here's an interesting review of the book published in The Washington Post (Choose Free and you should be able to get to the article, I did): https://www.washingtonpost.com/entert...
Rating: really liked it
A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza is a 2018 SJP for Hogarth publication.
The incredible amount of time I waited to read this book was worth it. This book is everything my peers said it would be. What can I add, at this stage, which hasn’t already been said, and far more eloquently than I? A formidable task, but I couldn't leave all these powerful emotions bottled up inside, needing to express some of my own personal thoughts on it.
I’m a big fan of family sagas, and no matter which way you slice it, this book falls into that category. However, this is also a story about the struggle for individuality within the family unit. It’s about generational divides, traditions, religious customs, and rigid expectations, which tilts the dynamics, especially between father and son.
These themes, (despite the added elements of cultural and religious diversity, and the examination of gender roles within the family unit, which certainly makes this story a unique experience for most readers), are not necessarily new. Any parent, any child, any family, with similarities, such as disciplinarian parenting, often coupled with deep religious fervor, could relate to this family, at least to some extent.
While Layla and Rafiq are in an arranged marriage, and their faith is important to them, their children often question the answers, perhaps in a way their parents never dared.
But, invariably, there is at least one child who rebels, who feels stifled or repressed, who challenges with a sense of pride and stubbornness, the principles and expectations the family imparts upon them. In this case, Amar and his father Rafiq, clash in such a harsh and heartbreaking manner, leaving the reader feeling bereft, with a keen sense of loss, for what might have been, what could have been...
If only people had the benefit of hindsight, if only our mistakes could be taken back, if we could have a do over, knowing exactly where things went awry, if only blame was placed where it should be placed, if only we were not all flawed humans - if only this were a perfect world.
As the tragic events unfold, the characters each come into their own, confessing horrible secrets, admitting complicity, guilt, blame, and expressing overwhelming regret.
This is family. This is parenting. This is life. There is pain, there is progress, there is forgiveness, there is hope- and 'a place for us'.
This novel is eloquently written, so fresh, so raw and emotional, and so very real. This is not a flashy story, sidestepping pretentiousness, while replacing it with a beautiful, understated quality, which is quite effective.
It is this sense of realism, the feeling of being, not on the outside looking in, but of being present, in the moment, right there with the characters, as the story unfolds, that held me firmly in its grip.
I was far more in tune, listening to the silence, carefully watching, and waiting with bated breath to see how events would unfold. As the conclusion draws near and the second person narrative of Rafiq begins, the silence is finally heard.
These passages nearly ripped my heart out. If this were a movie, showing in a crowded theatre, there wouldn’t be a dry eye in the house.
I’m not normally swayed by celebrity book clubs or in this case, imprints, but SJP picked a winner with this one. A very impressive debut for Fatima Farheen Mirza, for sure. I feel she is light years ahead of many of her contemporaries and can envision a very bright future for her in literary land.
All the stars-
Rating: really liked it
I knew my review wouldn’t do this book justice but here it is:
Like coming home.
Like a long, slow hug.
Like a song that you can’t get out of your head.A Place For Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza is one of the most extraordinary, thought provoking pieces of literature I have read in a very long time and I cannot recommend it highly enough. I am so very honored to have been included in this beautiful group of reviewers and to have read something so spectacular together with them.
It is my fear that I cannot possibly do this gorgeous book justice with a review. So this is not a review; these are my thoughts on what is sure to be one of the most moving, beautifully written pieces of work I will ever read.
For me personally, I tend to judge the strength of a book on its “unputdownability” however in this case, I had the absolute opposite response: I stretched it out for as long as I could and savored very single beautiful, heartfelt word.
The writing has been compared to “spun glass” and that is precisely what you will find here. So delicately and beautifully detailed, the words will grab ahold of you, take you on an emotional journey and never let you go.
In essence, this is a story of a family who is trying to understand how to exist in a world where their two cultures are colliding. But this could be the story of
any family, which is what affected me so deeply - the daily struggles, attempting to do what you think is best for yourself and your children - and how these decisions can affect your family dynamic forever.
This book affected me profoundly on many different levels, from the emotional pull I felt for these characters to the excitement of learning about a new culture.
You will find beautiful customs. You will find struggle and deeply human connection. You will feel and you will empathize and you will find a story that will touch your heart. Highly, highly recommend. One thousand stars.
A massive thank you to SJP for Hogarth for providing me with a copy of this extraordinary book. And thank you to the other Traveling Sisters for the most profound discussion.
